What is The ManUnmasker

Well I've decided it's official - my little side missions that most have no idea I embark upon are just too weird to leave entangled in the mainstream.

But are also too valuable to not offer to more people who are actually ready to embark on a deeper journey.

As always I was going back and forth in my head about how to share this & whether I should undertake this as Armarni - as myself or as someone entirely different. See I am a complex person & well the world is not as simple as I often wish it was.

But here I am placing it out here as the person I am mostly known as & a way that men feel more comfortable to open up to me. This has always been my secret mission - I literally see people in ways that the often cannot see themselves & what brings me happiness is seeing them love and accept themselves & eventually find someone that they offer that same acceptance to & recieve in return.

I might be a bad escort because my goal isn't too keep you trapped up in an illusion where one day you might win my heart and I see you off the books- no. For me that is the only true morally wrong part of this work & something I have always refused to partake in- possibly I am too much of a believer in karma but i guess time will tell.

My true desire is to get the men I see or we will say "you" to a place where you are secure in yourself by yourself- which might mean accepting of the fact right now paid relationships are what is best for you - Example you are busy with work and would not be able to provide another with the time they deserve. Or maybe you are still healing and want to show up in a authentic relationship healed & do so from a place of love not desperation.

Then once you reach a point you are ready you can try to attract authentic people into your life. Not people playing psychology games because if you are healed they should not need to & being authentic it becomes easier to spot inauthenticity & people coming from desperation.

Or maybe you are one of the many men that are already married- either stuck in a loveless marriage or one that you feel you need to hide yourself from or possibly the children have caused you to feel there is literally something between you. But is there something really or is it an illusion of expectations you both have placed on eachother? Barriers and hidden desires leading to fears and resentment. Believe it or not I have helped many men reignite their marriages that were all but said and done or acknowledge their truths and allow their partner to do the same and find themselves and happiness again.

People see the outer & think that is all there is to be offered- they think its blow jobs & sex. Or maybe something a little more kinky- never do they realise things are much deeper here. I never have to ask, there are some men who I can tell before I even arrive at the booking that they are meant to meet me- that there is something screaming inside of them that they need to share and for a reason that only those whom this applies to knows they needed a person in a specific setting & to acknowledge something there. This would likely bore collegues of mine and one would wonder why the hell i would enjoy being someone's safe space little own strangers I meet often in the middle of the night- but in those moments I know I have connected & helped people in their darkest times & turned saddness into laughter. Reignited hope and ambition.

No I'm not a "therapist" but as someone who has had a life that if I laid it all out you would think i am a space martian to still be sitting here today- I know that a piece of paper doesn't buy understanding. A certificate from someone whose life experience was their parents wouldn't let them go to parties is not someone who understands trauma, loss or the need to rebuild from ashes. Someone who always had family has never truly had to walk alone & someone who always had a roof has never understood the fear of instability. I have life experiences that cannot be brought. My story is long but I have also learnt that whilst that story has shaped me to who I am it does not define me and nor is anyone entitled to it, I have ways of helping people through things but some things are not meant for humans to bare.

I do offer mens life coaching & clearly I am a confidant- from people with dark pasts, soldiers, surgeons, lawyers, accountants, dentists, traders, gangsters, mechanics, hairstylists, religious leaders & 711 workers- I have met men from all walks of life. I have heard their stories and whilst i could have ran around and made tik toks about them I never have. I personally honour the space I create with people, I offer privacy because I too appreciate it. In a modern world of everyone chasing clout and fame- I assure you for me this is one of the reasons I hesitated to ever share what I truly do because I do this part of my work from passion and selectively.

We all want to be accepted - but many of us do not know or accept ourselves - then we are so scared to show that to another. Now you don't need to show it to the world often it is smart to have a facade you wear for society but you should be able to gaze into that mirror and accept yourself. You should be able to show it to the person that you intend to share your life with- if you cannot I question whether you should truly be spending your life and making such a commitment with a person you cannot trust. But what if you are already in a commitment? Does this mean you are doomed to a life of masks & judgement of the other and yourself? - No I don't think so- It's probably not easily believed but I deeply believe in vows & personally I feel that one should try to work on things & if the love is there - there is often solutions.

Men usually do not understand women- the problems they have with their wife are very easily fixed but the solution would never have occured to them. Men think differently to women & well most men cannot be honest with most women- with me you can. I don't want to steal you from your wife (sorry guys I am soooooo difficult to interest at all lol ) If you want someone who can help you improve your connection I can do that 100% but when going this avenue I do not double dip- unless that dipping is known about. Similarly with couples if I meet a couple I will not see individuals of that partnership without the other or their very clear consent for such. Morality- who would have thought. Yes this has and does hold me back financially but I have beliefs & believe one day it will be repaid.

But deeper than all of that if you hope for the person you love to accept all the different facets of you- could you truly hold the space to do the same? Would you accept their desires? Their fantasies? Their secrets & fears? Or are you just selfish screaming into the mirror of the world saying give me! How foolish we look when we realize the world is a mirror 🪞 & so are all of our interactions. Its not something you will always remember we are human after all but the closer we get to our best selves the more often we will remmeber that fact and act accordingly.

So the ManUnmasker is a venture where I will be offering limited and more focused coaching, confidant & inner journey work for men who are ready & willing to do the work both on their inner world and also in thier external reality and relationships to see improvements in their lives. Sometimes all thats needed for many mens problems is a female who can be truly honest with them and has zero alterior motives- I get paid for my time and I see everyone as birds & personally I do not believe they should be caged & have their wings clipped unless that is what they choose & even then I believe people only do that out of fear & a false belief that it is needed for them to have love and be accepted. IF you are curious about my weird bird analogies then i suggest reading my blog "Lessons In Romantic Love" here as there is a deeper explanation of that. But yes I do really like birds- infact I love all animals.

Will people still get that level of connection with me in intimate bookings? Yes ofocurse but truly for most people when in an intimate booking they are not usually in a working on themselves state of mind- usually I am a catalyst for that journey and some people it takes a little bit more of a nudge for that to occur- Plus The ManUnmakser I have developed a system that is very goal orientated and systemized in order to go deeper but provide strategies, understanding and appliable methods into daily life to improve situations. It is focused and soley dedicated to helping a man find his best self.

Do you only work with men? For now yes, I understand men better and in honesty I usually feel more comfortable with men- I know their agenda and they know mine, we are usually pretty honest with eachother and I like that. I know men well & can usually form raport and bonds with them very easily. But why would men want a woman as a coach? No man wants to tell some alpha he wants to put a hair brush up his ass or that he has this weird fantasy, no man is truly themselves around any other man or loved ones in thier lives- literally most of the time their escorts know the real them better than their family and friends do- I know their dirty secrets and you know what, thats okay. I know what's got them down & what stresses them out. I know what they want more than anything in the world and contray to what society would think- I want the best for them & this is why I am opening up this opportunity.

Zoom enables me to work with men world wide, enables a larger reach and is convenient for all our schedules, I will be only offering sessions in packages as I like to have an actual raport and case and to apply the full attention and dedication it deserves this requires commitment from both ends. I cannot pour from an empty cup. So yes people can ask me questions about things in in person bookings on the clock but as always my time & energy is the commodity. I recommend this approach as a complimentary approach for those who seek both in person connecion and development as it enables more focused work - however on extended dates I often do find myself working through things with clients as it is my passion.

If you are wishing to apply to work with me for coaching or need a non judgemental space you can apply to work with me via my contact form on the ManUnMasker Page.

I am looking forward to embarking on this journey however I do not think i will overly market things at this stage as I value privacy and alson prefer to offer a more lowkey situation especially for some of the high profile men I have had the pleasure of working with.

Hugs & Kisses

Armarni Bulkani xx