So you Want to Be an Escort?
Updated: Nov 17
Firstly Welcome to my blog, I wont be liked by many for this blog but hey, I have never really 'fitted in' in this industry anyway. I could just paint you pictures of a lot of money, and not working very often for that. But I will go through somethings people will not go through with you. Each person is a individual in their lives, and just as so are individuals in this industry. Some people love the industry, some wish they never started and some have a love hate relationship with it.
I'll start off by saying I believe at some point or another all 'civilian' women have probably or will probably think about joining the sex industry in some way. Nearly every 'civillian' woman i have told what I do for a living asks me either how they can get started or proclaim they wish they had done the same... Who could blame them I guess in a society where it is actually quite hard to obtain a secure full-time job in order to live independently as a woman. Do not get me wrong there are some powerhouse women out there who work in trades, or who have good educational backgrounds where they have more opportunities to succeed in the world. Others may not have had that educational opportunity, or simply enjoyed youth too much and now as adults either face the reality of working pay check to pay check or trying to study without any idea of how to pay for studies and support themselves. Welcome too life as a marginalized woman I guess. (again for all those who go on about people making presumptions this is my opinion and statistically speaking)
Now let's start with the good things about being a sex worker for me personally and a lot of those I know- each person is different.
Freedom- once you have worked a while, learn to trust your self and develop your self in your business you will discover you probably love your freedom. I work when I like to work. Personally I am a person who is quiet smart with my money and only work low volume. By working this way I don't tend to weekly turn over the big profit margins- but I do have a lifestyle where I do not meet more than 3 people in a week generally as I have my 'Niche' and the gentlemen I do see are always very generous, and nearly all see me again. It took me time to develop that though and I worked extremely hard and went through a lot to get where I am (i will discuss this stuff later)
Good Clients- with developing my niche I do not have one client i do not like. I tend to connect well with them, most of us even have great sex, not only for them but for me. In all of my clients I can find something good, something that makes me greatful that I am the lady they chose and most of their biggest regrets was not finding me sooner (and I wish they had). I have some Clients for 4 years now. I've gone away traveled, retired and returned (a lot more common than you think- coming later). I actually look forward to seeing them some of us have the best conversations and they genuinely care for me-Example- In recent times of lockdown with virus I was so lucky to have several regular gentlemen offer to care for me in that time with no expectations in return- Simply I look after them so if I need any help financially they would be happy to do so. Luckily I am a planner and had plenty of savings and seen this coming when it was still confined to China. So I did not have too accept their generous offers. But the caring nature of all of my clients actually stuns me sometimes. Again I am extremely particular of the dates I will accept and turn away a lot of those who contact me in order to have all 'good clients'.
I have met not only amazing men who I would never have met out side of my job from all over the world and all walks of life. I have also met and interacted with so many wonderful women in my industry- admittedly like all situations you need to be careful because I have definitely been used, put in unimaginable situations and completely mislead by some 'friends' I made early on in this industry. It is wise to keep somewhat of a professional distance I find in most scenarios and be a lot more cautious than you would in a mainstream job. But again the diverse personalities, backgrounds and stories are ones i will always hold dear. The bad experiences some I have still not fully dealt with but I know I learnt from them and one day I will look back to how it made me so much wiser.
Now you can make extremely good money- but does money make you happy? (more on this later) you also need to work for that money and most of the time unless your mentored or have been bestowed with the secret networks and ways too ensure your safety- sadly more times then not when starting private on your own unless your already heavily involved in the industry you will probably have limited knowledge on how to stay safe- and the bad guys see new girls as a big red target. Anytime I had a break and returned you would see the trolls climbing out from under the bridge trying to trick you. These days I am very diligent (too cautious most would say) and I never have the displeasure of entertaining these men now but that took work, practice and the ability to turn away thousands of dollars every week. You have to be at a point where you look at money and see it as somewhat worthless to that feeling of unease when you meet someone you wish you hadn't. It takes time for most to do that, mistakes and familiarity with that uneasy feeling, also a financial backing- if your unfortunate and living week to week or even day to day like some in this business(money does not always come easy- there are quiet times) you would find it extremely hard to walk away from the money.
Some people love travel, Love their individualism and enjoy how this industry enables them to be who ever they desire- if you want to be a punk rocker you just work your marketing to that, if your a shy girl next door type you work it too that, pornstar in the making etc; etc. You dress how you want (most of the time- I despise the colour red and still have requests of wearing red, it looks great on but to me (i'm a weirdo) red is a angry colour, I do not like it lol- I'm bright, colourful, mysterious and extremely unique to the point it took me 8 days to find something i liked for my photo shoot. I am the worst shopper). But anyway you can be who ever you desire and it will be someone's thing- someone will love it. It doesn't matter your shape or size it is someones preference to someone out there you are perfect. Travel (normally) in this job is something most girls do- you can make a bit being at home but personally going on holiday bookings and weekend getaways is where not only thee 'money' comes from but that bond with your gentlemen is really formed. Touring suits some- for me 'Mrs I want to sleep in my own bed' Touring is not for me- overnight, weekends away and FM2Y are because they are longer duration bookings without the sitting around in apartments alone feeling- I like being home but I do not like being in empty apartments alone, yes even luxury ones. So its really an individual thing.
The stuff no one will outright tell you- why? because people in the industry are so set on de-stigmatizing the industry they do not want to talk about the negatives- From someone who read many blogs about the great lifestyle,the money and seen all the instagram stories I know how important it is too give a clear and authentic view of each side of the business. Sadly over the years I have met many young girls who read books, seen interviews or followed instagram models and thought it was a good idea without any knowledge of the ugly truths within the nooks and crannies in the business. For some these 'negatives' will not be negatives. Just like this industry will be great for some and not for others. Some will make it, Some will not.
This industry has tiers, it has levels and for many the starting level is a place your given the idea of 'sisterhood' and safety. Many girls start in parlors or the very un-glamorous word predominately used in Australia Brothels. Others may start for agencies, pimps, madams. Some may be smart and pay a experienced private worker too mentor them. Others are quiet brave navigate the industry on their own. There are many different parts of the industry- it is then tiered- high end, mid end, low end (and then those who are forced or trafficked).
(now this part of things (trafficking) I feel is completely different so it is not something I will not talk about in this blog as I feel this industry is when you make the decision to start this work or be in the industry. Trafficking is too me one of the worse crimes of the world and those who support it are demons. How you can try to prevent supporting those businesses as a client- I will write a separate blog and link later- the ladies, men and others that are suppressed through crimes of trafficking and exploitation have nothing but my heart felt sympathies and wishes for freedom and justice. I could never imagine their pain and would make the things we whinge about seem pitiful, as it is completely different scenarios and industries. As sex workers we make the choice to be in the industry, as victims they have no choice)
Now I have addressed that I will take you through some negatives I have encountered personally or from those I have met and corresponded with over the years. Again you may love this work, for others though you may find some of these things incredibly difficult.
The starting point- We probably all did it when we started, googled agencies or parlors near us and thought it would be the best place to start. We seen the rates men pay and calculate how much we would earn in a 8 hour shift and think wow ill have enough for that "car" in no time. What you probably did not realize when you first did that calculation ( all states are different) but in QLD 40-50% of that money you will never see it will go to the house, so your half an hour rate would end up being $70-$80 for full sex for 30 mins. Yes your expected to not just provide company or a body rub- full sex for that rate- the 'extra's' they are referring to is kissing, touching, different positions or experiences. Too me I find that outrageous and I do not think anywhere should be able to say an amount a woman will receive for having sex, I believe in an ideal world a woman would set her own price and at least pick whom they see but parlors as much as they will tell you other wise in most places in QLD it is not that way. Now if that already doesn't sound like a good deal some men think they are 'entitled' to free extra's I have heard many stories of women having this problem, even some men complaining that free kissing was not included and being sympathized from management (not everywhere some places stand by their girls). I have even heard of managers telling women that if they do not do free extra's they will not make money. Its a sad thing for some women as they then feel they need to because they are 'older', 'overweight', not the right 'type', are not 'blonde' or what ever they are told. The good news- that person saying that is full of Sh*t and if they were interested in actually helping a woman who isn't mainstream possibly they would tell them they would be better private and owning what makes them unique as you are someones perfect.
Zipped Lips- This industry you will find that it is difficult to actually speak about your own experiences or use your own opinion at all, you can but you will be ridiculed particularly in places like twitter. You will end up finding that more often than not it is easier to say nothing at all, than too speak your mind. No matter what you say including nothing will offend someone.
Isolation- I myself am an introvert I love being on my own but if your not and your private you may face challenges especially in qld where it is illegal to work in pairs or do doubles as a private worker. I like this part of the industry as there is no drama's, I pick my own clients, I don't have to deal with drugs/ alcohol because I do not do so myself and no one else is around besides my carefully screened clients to deal with. For me the isolating times are worth the removal of drama. Now drama lets get to that, be careful who you trust, so many may pretend to want to be your friend. But the reality is this is sadly a competitive business and while some will want you too flourish so many do not have good intentions. I was naive and burned early on now I can see through it and distance myself from those with jealousy occurring or somewhat malicious intentions. Its sad but please be aware of this, for most women it would come as a complete surprise that some could be like that particularly to those first starting out but unfortunately it is something you need to be aware of.
Bad Clients- When you first start, due to the lack of support in the industry most do not know or have the confidence or the financial 'privilege' to screen, unfortunately the bad guys out there do see new girls as shiny red targets that are just too easy for them to obtain a booking and manipulate. You will sadly probably encounter men who try to blackmail services you do not offer threatening bad reviews on their degrading little forums where they talk about girls in this business. I personally do not engage with anyone who is in that lifestyle as they some what sicken me from things that have occurred to industry peers over the years. You need a backbone and some whits about you. I personally prepare for the worst and hope for the best. There are some odd people in the world. There are bad clients, there are bad men, there are bad women, there are bad people and there is also good of each thing.But being 'new' will make you an easy target and I suggest anyone that is new would either research heavily and have the confidence too reach out to proper support networks someone who is quiet shy like myself will have alot of navigation to do. If your in a position you can afford to hire a mentor from a well established retired industry peer do so, I am sure it would save a lot of time and drama but also do not let anyone tell you that you have to offer x,y,z services too get far. The truth of the matter is there is a market place for everyone and you should never bend what your comfortable with unless absolutely necessary and you have gave enough thought to possible repercussions and that is a decision only you can and should make.
You may make a lot of money but that calculation of your expense of living you will end up finding has changed immensely, the costs of running a business are also going to be alot higher than you have estimated and this industry is unpredictable, fluctuating and as we seen in recent times with the pandemic always shifting. Save that money girl, register for taxes (get a good accountant, asking around can help with that) always have enough money for at least 2 months of rent and comfortable living expenses stored away before you go for holidays and buy luxury items. Always plan for the rainy days and the worse like injuries or unexpected time off work because things happen and we do not get sick or holiday pay, clients that offer to help are hard to come buy and generally take time too find. And in a lot of circumstances they may not be able to help as things could also be impacting them.
Privately while in my opinion miles better than any other options there is the enquirers. And quality enquirers are definitely not the majority. Be prepared for people you have never even met trying to get bookings at 2am and if they are asked to provide ID they would run away (because how rude a woman's safety is important). Be prepared for most SMS to be along the lines Of " HI. (insert escort name) are you available now?" they honestly believe escorts do not get a choice of who they are meeting. Some women do not require introductions, names, id, what they do for a living and deposit but a majority do but if you think the majority of men read this think again. The positives though, is a man who does enquire properly and comply with the booking process via reading first will generally be a fantastic client and will appreciate you and you will probably see again many times. Avail now guys are just that, or I see them as that they lurk around take what every is ready for them any time or day they decide and don't ever think to display proper business etiquette. When you can finally ignore these guys while still frustrating its a pretty good position too be in and you will be thankful of that. Some of these 'Avail now guys' can actually be decent guys but from experience even if they become clients you have seen multiple times they always expect short notice and never change- you can tell them too prebook until your blue in the face and it never sinks in. Recently I have just started muting these guys, its not I don't like them personally they just are not good for my stress levels and do not respect my business. Because that's what it is- a business with policies, operating hours and etiquette.
Morals and beliefs - Now this is an extremely individual thing, I when I first started struggled immensely because I am quiet a unique person, I privately haves strong beliefs, a cultured background, very mainstream desires for my life (if i was a sims character my life ambition would be family (really think about that when making a decision if this is for you)) Originally I was trying to be someone I wasn't trying to have a one size fits all approach instead of focusing on finding people who were like me. These days I do tend to see people who either respect my boundaries or who even have those similar boundaries and beliefs and enjoy having someone they feel comfortable around and that understands them. Now something I never really prepared myself for was the guilty feelings I would face regularly because I am in a somewhat opposite form of life than what I envisioned. So if your reading this I want you to think long term about this decision because most of us do not start this job thinking years, or decades. But its incredibly hard to leave and parts of you can become worn down over time if the job is not right for you, or if you have not adjusted it to a way that you can get benefit without causing emotional harm. If your in the job and struggling id suggest maybe looking at your marketing and also your demographics- for example I generally travel to the city 2 hours away for work as there is a limited number of gentlemen that fit my 'type' of gentlemen in my area and those that are are generally regulars or I know them within the community and I do not mix personal and professional lives. Annoying as that drive is sometimes 4 hours a day in the car is so much more worth it as I really do prefer to see people interested in seeing me and who have taken the time and made an effort to contact correctly. If your not in the business and don't think its something you want to do for years- really think about it- because you get used to the money/ lifestyle- time can go quickly and it is easy to become immersed in the business.
Lifestyle- this job is not only a job but lifestyle, work doesn't finish when you finish up with your clients. Something said too me when I first started I still remember Like it was yesterday- I made a comment of how sometimes it felt like you had an 'alter ego' or a 'character' as a introverted person more often than not you would not think I am this way. She said back to me "one day you just become that person and there is no distinguished difference between you or the work you, you become the same". In the beginning this petrified me because I was being so different to who I really am. Now I embrace who I am and what makes me unique in order to prevent the 'merge', I wish i could say its not true but many times I have seen women drastically change and loose themselves in this job its extremely hard to stay grounded because it is so hard to relate to 'civilian people' when you have been in this industry. People will appear different, because you will see the world is not how you used to think- for example people who society trains you to believe are 'dangerous' based on their appearance will probably be the kindest people in the world, some who appear 'normal' may factually be extremely psycho. You realize that things are not how they seem in the world in some ways that is a good thing as you become open minded and stop making presumptions on peoples appearance, it can make you more cautious in public. In this industry you have some that tour, some that stay put, some that do overnights and some that don't its an individual thing and you will find what works into your lifestyle preferences. For example I couldn't be a touring escort, I love sleeping in my own bed with my pets and living on a secluded little beach, its what brings me comfort. Although I do not tour often as I hate sitting in empty apartments on my own too me it feels soulless I can never relax, I can only relax at home so I tend to work appointment only, I can however do overnights, weekends away and Fly me to you but I do tend to get a flight back straight away opposed too booking a night in that city if only a lunch date or so. Some women love travelling, and while I enjoy travelling not so much for work without a well planned schedule.
Publicity- No matter how discreet you are generally at some point you will probably walk into a room and think 100% people know your an escort, while this may be paranoia it is a feeling you will either need to grow too love or learn to live with. You will feel like your different too them and well probably because you are, I was a 'normal' woman once and I swear my head was under a rock, stepping away from my ex relationship from pre SW and looking at it now I 100% believe he was seeing a worker or more behind my back, its a big eye opener and you need to be ready for that too to sit there and analyze things differently because, most likely you will. This is a problem when leaving too, you tend to know more than what you technically 'should' as a woman and you will probably have different views than you would prior as well as altered trust levels. Again its a very different thing and each person is different.
Outlets- everyone needs them, in this industry you need to be mindful when choosing your outlets and while somethings work for others they may be destructive for you. Me personally I currently am trying to develop new outlets, I like structure and routine so this industry can be difficult and the closing of gyms was a challenge too me and due to the variable rate in that industry currently I am trying to establish home based routines. (stupid virus).. You need to have a strong mind set and strong goals for yourself to ensure you can keep structured and relieviate stress.
We are not all rich- Money takes work and the industry fluctuates- there will be times you may do one booking a week- or none at all- then you might have a 10k week. Who knows what will happen and that is a point if you have a good stable 'civi' job I suggest you think twice before leaving it- if your set on trying the indsutry maybe start part time- most girls do not 'book out' its simply things take time- cleaning, travelling, getting dressed, beauty appointments, everything is time consuming. People see the hourly rates and calculate it based off a 30 hour week or 8 hour days. this is not the case. I have met some ladies who had gone months without a booking in quiet season. No fault of their own its just a flooded market and sometimes it is crazy quiet.
Safety and Stigma- Australia is a funny place each state has different rules- its hard to navigate them... In Queensland police entrapment is legal- we have crazy advertisement rules eg if you write the M word used to describe a body rub done on a M table its illegal and they can pretend to be a client show up and charge you. Police can pretend to be clients too see if you offer services without prophylactics, we cannot even state what is included in a service... honestly ridiculous. Stigma is a huge killer in this business and you need to consider how you feel about it eg- I had a civilian friend I told and trusted that lived in my home town- she got blind and told everyone I used too work with that I am an escort, people make comments that can be hurtful. People talk about me there Like I am britney spears when she shaved her hair off- I'm strong enough to realize that many of the girls commenting on it were just insecure and or jealous. People can be cruel so you need to be prepared for that and also be prepared for that if your seeking to return to the mainstream work force, I had had an instance where I was outed too a mainstream boss. Hope for the best in People But prepare for the worst.
Time wasters and Scammers- Our phones may be tinging but let me tell you the quality of some enquirers are low... very low. The percentage of men who do not read anything at all is I believe atleast 90%- There are those whom message hi. next message you avail. and guess what they are on the other side of the country... Or those fun ones who message bizarre things like wanting to be run over and put in a blender.. You get used to It and just block them, but It is annoying when your first starting out and relying on a steady stream of bookings. A major warning is do Not fall for receipts, if the money is not in your hands or your account do not go ahead with anything. Sadly there are more scammers out there then ever. Be careful what platforms you accept payment from for online work- eg paypal is a big no no. Most are not adult work friendly and some predators know this and will specifically ask to pay you with such. Same as Gpay and other methods charge backs can happen, always have a policy in place stating consent is only given on the basis of payment incase (I hope not) you do not receive said funds so you have a further legal leg to stand on. In recent times getting deposits has been much easier with apps like Beem it being instant and protecting personal info as well as smart ATM cash deposits. Only use instant methods unless you have enough days for clearance before the date and stipulate too them that if it is not cleared the date will not go ahead. I have met many girls who have been coerced into doing a booking from fake receipts and threats of legal action if the service isn't provided. It's rubbish just like any service industry unless it's paid for it is theft. Do not let anyone ever try to convince you otherwise. In these instances police actually can be helpful (in experience with someone I know) so this is a positive thing too note that they take these threats and what amounts to rape as consent is only given with payment very seriously.
Relationships- They are hard when you have a relationship when working (in a generalized approach and I am sure even the best couples have their hard days) partners can worry about the dangers of work, become jealous and even try to emotionally manipulate you. It's hard, probably what alot struggle with the most. Those in fresh relationships wonder if to tell them or keep it from them, whether too stop work for a partner or the feelings of guilt knowing its impacting someone else so much. It's a complicated area of this work and probably one of the most sensitve and individual decisions too make in your personal life in regards too your work. What works for one couple may not work for you. Ultimately though I believe you need too look out for you- What do you want? if you were too leave work for that person could they give you the support and financial stability you need or at least make you feel secure enough too cease sex work? Or if you tell them how will you feel if they react negatively or if they react positively? Think about it. I know personally I want a simple life someday, but I will not put myself in a position I would feel financially insecure- I also worry about trust, not so much for me trusting them ( do not even go there lol ) but them trusting me, will you cop the whole where were you? are you working again? who was that guy you were talking too? etc etc. its a stressful per-decimate. But it also comes down too the type of man your wanting too settle with too though- I've always been into disciplined traditionalists you could say. Others seem to have partners with open minds towards the industry and are happily married while working. But again its personal preferences and what you want for your life. But be prepared its a field of landmines for most SWers in relationships or contemplating one. Then there is Client Relationships- sometimes things can get close, you can tell that a gentlemen feels something for you more than you can offer, or you find yourself wanting too know them more. Unfortunately it can be a difficult situation as so many clients may find themselves sexually attracted too you and enjoy the sex but do they know you? It can be hard because sex ultimately can I believe determines someones suitability- I have some clients I have amazing sex with and I put them in a little category in my mind as 'be-careful' lol its not that I don't enjoy their company but rather the opposite. Keeping a professional distance but also having a great relationship with them. Sometimes they are constantly trying too push boundaries in hopes of a more connective relationship, its a hard situation too navigate sometimes and it can be emotionally draining. Family relationships- Do you tell or do you not? In honesty with me I had someone thinking they could manipulate me with the I will tell your family thing- Some of my family knew but I ended up telling all of them. Luckily I had as early on in my career I had a guy I refused due to not passing my health test get my name off a gym sign in look up my surname on facebook message my father and younger brother.... Needless to say they knew but I would have preferred my father wasn't sent a picture of my naked body.... You will have choices too make and it may impact your relationship- the ones I thought would support me due to their own alternative lifestyles criticized me and said things like I encourage exploitation of women and children, those who are very proper in my family actually shocked me and have been nothing but gracious about my choices and believe as long as in my home life I am safe from harm and happy and my work provides stability and I can do so safely and support myself they are okay with it. They at least have the mindset of well most girls my age who are single in Western society are on tinder anyway at least I am protective of my sexual health as its also my source of income and I am compensated for what many women are sadly left without even an orgasm for... lol. But I know girls who have been shunned- I have always been a bit of a lone ranger an had many family that honestly I am better off without having them in my life, but that takes strength too do but this work enabled me to fully accomplish that and remove toxicity from my life, those who were great family (adopted actually) and worthy of being in my life our relationship has actually gotten better from me telling them. Because this job although it does have some negative impacts has enabled me too live as an independent woman which prior too this work I was in somewhat controlling relationships that were not good for me, although I worked several jobs they were not reliable income and I always needed a man too have my back. This career has somewhat molded me into a extremely strong woman and enabled me too accomplish more than I ever had before. My good family recognizes that and chooses not to judge me. It really surprised me so not all is doom and gloom in this department but it is hard. Normal Friendships- This can be hard to navigate, some girls will talk shit about you its not fair but its true- best friends may joke about you too a whole town and when drunk tell all your parents colleges what you do for a living (happened too me). Not the funnest scenario so be careful who you tell, money can cause jealousy they see the hourly rate and calculate it like we did before we started. Most of us are not making $500 per hour x 8 hours a day x 6 days a week. This is what they do in their heads- My girlfriends now are good but some former would always expect me to get the bill, complain I make so much more an hour too them so on so on. I get it... but I need to Stipulate too you they have the same choice you do, they can do it too- they are married? that's great I know heaps of SWers who are also married- they have kids, yes lots of SWers have kids- Oh but they cannot have S*x with strangers for money- but yes they have a tinder lol. Do not feel bad for them, sure I am caring of my friends and shout etc but there gets too a point I stop and think enough is enough. I have friends that work normal jobs know what I do and never would carry on with the I earn so much more money etc. We all have options don't let people use you for money. I have even had bad family members do this too. Your sometimes better off.
You can get lonely even with all the attention in the world it can feel superficial, especially if your experiencing troubles with your usual group of civilian friends or your family due to stigma from work. It can also be the opposite too- sometimes I feel over socialized from work and withdraw from people in my real world bubble because I feel socially exhausted- its a social roller-coaster...
You can see this is a huge blog.... I've saved the best for last- Exit strategy... You can make one, I've made one a million times but it's hard too stick too it. Be warned this business is not something you tend to do for a month or a year... It get's too years and you think, I was only meant too do this for one year... What happens is your perspective of money changes so your goals get bigger and you become accustomed too a lifestyle, if your happy that is okay but still plan for a future where you may not wish too do this anymore. But if your not invest in your education, broaden your business activities and branch into different industries as It is incredibly hard to work for someone else when you have been working for yourself for so long.
Again this blog was not meant to marginalize anyone, discriminate or upset anyone- its simply things I have observed and after conversations with several 'civilian' women ( do not even ask why I do this but I do feel alien too most women now and don't really like using the word normal because no one really is). They all see the gifts, the money, designer clothes, holidays etc but they take out of their mind how those things occur, and while some men may be factually great and you may really enjoy spending time with them and factually have great sex- they do not realize most do not wake up straight on this side of the industry, they do not see the personal life implications we as SWers face, the laws, the stigma, judgement and social implications.
Its hard stuff, there are good days and bad days and while a lot of high end women would not like too admit that, I think we can all inwardly agree when your first starting its a bumpy road that we all thought would be easier from what we had read, seen or heard. I think we all at some point made unrealistic ideas of the money we would make. I wrote this also because when someone asks me about it I do find myself always talking the positive I think it is because it makes you feel degraded in ways mentioning the bad or like a sympathy seeker or something (im not a psych so i factually have no idea why but I notice this with others too its harder too talk about the negative possibly or the thought that positive attracts positive)-but it is incredibly important too mention the negative because well I wouldn't want some girl reading the stuff I write and thinking its all sunshine and rainbows and starting this job thinking working for 6 months will make her a millionaire and all clients will be great, she will be booked out everyday and have clients who bestow gifts and luxurious dates on her 24/7... Im trying to put some of the truths I have seen out there because in honesty I have met many young girls who did start this thinking it would be different too how it is and that only envisioned sunshine and lolly pops- I'm hoping that anyone considering starting the business will read it and understand that I am not telling you you should or you shouldn't - that is for you too decided, but you should consider things wisely and read as much as you can and consider implications first.
Hope your all well, and stay safe out there everyone
hugs and Kisses
Armarni B xoxo