Men Don't Appreciate Real Love- Lessons

Did the title trigger you? You are probably thinking how stupid ofcourse men know the difference between real love and sex. Ofcourse men want to be loved. But stick with me here.

Something I found really baffling over the years of being an escort is how screwed up many men are internally & most do not even realize it unless it's pointed out (& even though I probably would have been a lot richer if I didn't point this out in most circumstances - I do because I'm just too honest).

Men are addicted to the runner chaser dynamic. If something wants them they do not want it - that's why so many women have scrambled into learning dark fem psychology because they have learnt it's the only way to get a mans attention long term - but that's for another blog as personally I don't play games- I do my job & have my personal life & am content on my own so isn't my thing- but I see how it's all unfolding & find it rather sad. Because everyone wears masks, thinks strategically & in most circumstances no one's truly getting what they want either because if no one's being genuine & it's all strategy how the hell could they?

But like most things in life if it comes for free it's appreciated less. Education is the same you can learn something on YouTube for free but most only take it seriously if they pay for it.

I have observed how much men desire my attention, my time, affection, communication - photos literally anything they can get from me because they know my time is paid for & any little bit extra feels like an expensive gift. These same men will have girls who they have "dated" or had a casual fling with who are messaging them, calling them- wanting time with them for free but instead they are more invested in trying to engage with me- someone who is making money.

See that girl wants their attention, gave her time, sex, love and attention for free & it's not appreciated on the same level than if it's paid for. Even if deep down they know it's my job- while we may have fun if the money wasn't there it wouldn't be happening - they know that but still many always will have that hope of maybe one day if they stay persistent they will tame me. As long as that barrier is kept the runner chaser dynamic remains.

It's like deposits - if one is paid it's very unlikely the meeting would be cancelled unless it's a genuine reason. There are less family or work emergencies, less car accidents - less excuses there is always time. Where as I will talk to non working girlfriends and men will cancel dinner dates or plans last minute, expect girls to be available at their beck and call - for free & unfortunately many women think doing this will equate to the man appreciating them & giving them time, love, attention & being there for them when/ if they need. Literally 98% of the time this is all one sided.

Escorts we know this- even if sometimes we forget- but we charge to be there when needed & quiet when not. It shouldn't be expected in real life relationships because it's meant to be give and take & well women generally want love, support, time, affection - appreciation. It's no wonder in marriages the sex falls off. Relationships are meant to be compromise - give and take. A paid for situation or "sugar" situation is all charades - if the money stops so does the dynamic.

Real takes work, real is annoying and inconvenient at times - that's why for many busy businessmen who prioritize wealth over love it's better for them to just pay & have an arrangement - because if it's real you will just have a depressed & angry chick waiting on you all the time. It's about what matters to you most I guess as to whether you balance it.

The real eye opening time for me was when years ago I had a client who was head over heels for me for years & years - & I thought gee am I being harsh? Should I give them a chance & actually spend some time with them? We do get along- lol no. I learnt very quickly that my time is only appreciated and taken serious when it's paid for and that men seem to expect women to be comfortable with things always being one sided. That usually most things are just a fantasy and most men are just talk without the action. Because they think "free & real" would be the same dynamic as when someone's getting paid, taken on holidays, handbags & gifts- it's not. Take the payment / gifts out of a sugar dynamic and see how much time will be left for you.

Even if there is genuine care and friendship there if you think their would be sexual intimacy you would be kidding yourself - there can be crazy chemistry & connection - but without the payment there is nothing.

In the past I have heard married men talk about how they simply aren't attracted to their wife anymore, she got fat after kids, she doesn't look nice anymore etc. it never occurs to them that she spends money to maintain home, will spend money on the children, him & making a house a home- that he should be paying on advance for her maintenance - that he should ensure she has the time to care for herself and her appearance. But most men would prefer to just spend their money on a paid dynamic. Many marry for tradition or family expectations not their own desires & well that's just bound to end up a certain way & I'll write a separate blog about that. But also it never occurs maybe she's not attracted to you anymore now that you got comfortable & let yourself go? Now that you are also suppressed sexually & so is she? That she's probably depressed because you no longer show affection, appreciation or like you desire her because you already won?

The chase is over- you got what you wanted and now you look for the next race or game in a never ending dynamic. I observe and think how stupid the world is at times- and many that seek genuine will simply stay alone because they do not wish to compete with the sugar dynamics or the dark fem psychology - like some women are sick of the games & they will stay alone or look to women because they have seen time and time again men will always pick the game & false narrative. It's either play pretend or sit out.

Is it to say I think escorting and paid dynamics are wrong? That they ruin lives and marriages? No that's far from what I'm saying. I'm saying many men need a wake up call & unfortunately for most that doesn't happen until something drastic happens- the wife leaves & it's final, health fails & no one's there, money dries & sugar disappears - don't be that man.

Look at your life, be honest with yourself about what you truly want and also what you can give. If you cannot give a woman emotional connection, love, appreciation, time, affection, consideration and support -just pay by the hour or have an arrangement. Don't play with people's time as you clearly do not appreciate the women who are giving it to you for free. Karma whether you believe in it or not I have witnessed to many times that the tables eventually do turn. Men messing women around is what has caused this uprise of "dark fem psychology" & many women deciding to no longer offer themselves to men for free.

Appreciate women who give you time for free as though you paid for it- because if there was a deposit & secured set time then I'm sure it would be prioritized. Be realistic about what your time with an escort or sugar baby is- it's paid for even if that friendship is there it's their job. It's like thinking you will go to a shrink a few times you get along so then you will just have free therapy sessions - it's not how it goes and it's also not how you appreciate that person & value what they do for you. If you are grateful and appreciative of the service you get don't expect it for less- when you value something you show appreciation. Thats how the world works.

Why the hell would I share all that? Well stick around - I have more insights from years of men taking off their masks & observing how things work. Will this impact business? I don't really care example that man who said that about his wife I told him directly that his wife probably wants a shredded BBC too. Lol I don't have a filter & I believe everyone has a purpose in life & possibly I'm getting in touch with mine. I'm very good at what I do & most men love the fact that I am not scared to have honest conversation with them whether it be dynamics like this, politics, beliefs literally anything - I always liked debates & can listen to a side and also give without fear if they will see me again. Also because my head is to die for lol.

2026 will be an interesting year in many ways. I am excited to be finally embarking on something I felt the need to long ago.

& I'm sorry if I touched a soft spot - but as much as I love money- I will always hope for every human including my clients to have a happy full life & that's going to differ in definition for everyone. Some just want to focus on career and making money and our dynamic is what's best for their lives, I understand it and appreciate it. But I've witnessed too many men walk around blind to what is truly going on inside of themselves, fixated on certain areas of their life to then see the rest crumble & realize how pointless one is without the other. Because they valued what crumbled a lot more than they realized. I have also experienced this in my own unique way several times, so I learnt the lesson extra hard & hope that eye opening can keep people in a sense of reality of what they want & the true value behind something.

Hugs & kisses.

Armarni Bulkani