Firstly Welcome to my blog, I wont be liked by many for this blog but hey, I have never really 'fitted in' in this industry anyway. I could just paint you pictures of a lot of money, and not working very often for that. But I will go through somethings people will not go through with you. Each person is a individual in their lives, and just as so are individuals in this industry. Some people love the industry, some wish they never started and some have a love hate relationship with it.
I'll start off by saying I believe at some point or another all 'civilian' women have probably or will probably think about joining the sex industry in some way. Nearly every 'civillian' woman i have told what I do for a living asks me either how they can get started or proclaim they wish they had done the same... Who could blame them I guess in a society where it is actually quite hard to obtain a secure full-time job in order to live independently as a woman. Do not get me wrong there are some powerhouse women out there who work in trades, or who have good educational backgrounds where they have more opportunities to succeed in the world. Others may not have had that educational opportunity, or simply enjoyed youth too much and now as adults either face the reality of working pay check to pay check or trying to study without any idea of how to pay for studies and support themselves. Welcome too life as a marginalized woman I guess. (again for all those who go on about people making presumptions this is my opinion and statistically speaking)
Now let's start with the good things about being a sex worker for me personally and a lot of those I know- each person is different.
This industry has tiers, it has levels and for many the starting level is a place your given the idea of 'sisterhood' and safety. Many girls start in parlors or the very un-glamorous word predominately used in Australia Brothels. Others may start for agencies, pimps, madams. Some may be smart and pay a experienced private worker too mentor them. Others are quiet brave navigate the industry on their own. There are many different parts of the industry- it is then tiered- high end, mid end, low end (and then those who are forced or trafficked).
(now this part of things (trafficking) I feel is completely different so it is not something I will not talk about in this blog as I feel this industry is when you make the decision to start this work or be in the industry. Trafficking is too me one of the worse crimes of the world and those who support it are demons. How you can try to prevent supporting those businesses as a client- I will write a separate blog and link later- the ladies, men and others that are suppressed through crimes of trafficking and exploitation have nothing but my heart felt sympathies and wishes for freedom and justice. I could never imagine their pain and would make the things we whinge about seem pitiful, as it is completely different scenarios and industries. As sex workers we make the choice to be in the industry, as victims they have no choice)
Now I have addressed that I will take you through some negatives I have encountered personally or from those I have met and corresponded with over the years. Again you may love this work, for others though you may find some of these things incredibly difficult.
Its hard stuff, there are good days and bad days and while a lot of high end women would not like too admit that, I think we can all inwardly agree when your first starting its a bumpy road that we all thought would be easier from what we had read, seen or heard. I think we all at some point made unrealistic ideas of the money we would make. I wrote this also because when someone asks me about it I do find myself always talking the positive I think it is because it makes you feel degraded in ways mentioning the bad or like a sympathy seeker or something (im not a psych so i factually have no idea why but I notice this with others too its harder too talk about the negative possibly or the thought that positive attracts positive)-but it is incredibly important too mention the negative because well I wouldn't want some girl reading the stuff I write and thinking its all sunshine and rainbows and starting this job thinking working for 6 months will make her a millionaire and all clients will be great, she will be booked out everyday and have clients who bestow gifts and luxurious dates on her 24/7... Im trying to put some of the truths I have seen out there because in honesty I have met many young girls who did start this thinking it would be different too how it is and that only envisioned sunshine and lolly pops- I'm hoping that anyone considering starting the business will read it and understand that I am not telling you you should or you shouldn't - that is for you too decided, but you should consider things wisely and read as much as you can and consider implications first.
Hope your all well, and stay safe out there everyone
hugs and Kisses
Armarni B xoxo